First and foremost, congratulations on your engagement! This is an amazing time. You’re in love and embarking on a journey with your soul mate. Right now, you’re on cloud nine and on your finger rests the glittery, sparkly promise of a bright future together. On top of that, you get to start planning your dream wedding!
Planning a wedding is a wonderful time for every couple, but before you go shouting from the rooftop that you’re getting married, there are things to consider sooner rather than later. Over the next few weeks, we’ll go over a variety of tips to help along the way.
First, just dream. Once the dust settles and you’ve told everyone the big news, start dreaming. Stock up on bridal magazines, peruse the web, imagine yourself as a bride. There’s nothing like those first few months after becoming engaged, and there’s no doubt that it is one of the happiest times in your life.
Make Actual Plans
Have a good old-fashioned sit-down with your fiancé, right now, while it’s fresh and new. Before you speak with your parents, your friends, all the recently married couples who are now experts at wedding planning, work out the nitty-gritty details you may have only touched on when you were dating. Decide what you’ll do for holidays every year, whether or not you want kids, where you want to live long term.
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Even if things change down the road, it’s important to know where you both stand on the big issues. You’re going to be an unstoppable team and your wedding will be what the two of you hoped and dreamed of, so talk. Discuss weddings you’ve each attended and make note of anything you liked or didn’t like. It’s important to talk about your family members and their expectations. Decide together ahead of time how much those expectations will influence your planning decisions. This would also be a good time to warn your fiancé about Uncle Bob, or Aunt Jean, or whomever. You know who I mean…we all have one.
Now, once you change your Facebook status to engaged, get ready for the ensuing flood of posts on your wall and requests for your wedding date. But you won’t be able to set an exact date until other major decisions — your budget, picking a wedding coordinator, planning your engagement party, choosing (and booking) your venue — are made. Just focus on determining a range of dates that will work for you. Engagements can last anywhere from a few months (hello Kaley Cuoco!) to a year and a half or more, but being careful to think about seasons you’d prefer, any major holidays or family events you’d like to avoid conflicting with, and how long you predict you’ll need to plan, will help you out in the long run.
Everything we’re sharing is to help minimize the unavoidable stress that comes with planning your big day. When you really think about it, a wedding is 20 to 30 years of hopes and dreams all in a 6-hour time frame. Your wedding day represents unlimited possibilities and new beginnings. There’s bound to be stress, and it’s normal to want to please everyone all the time. But whether you’re having a big opulent ceremony, an intimate wedding, or eloping, this day is for you and your fiancé. Don’t be afraid to make it your own.
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Married couples, what was the first thing you did when you got engaged?
Check in on next week’s Wedding Wednesday for the 2nd installment in this series: Getting Organized!