I Found Out My Husband Cheated Years Ago. Do I Forgive?

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So my husband and I have been married 8 years and about 2 years ago we were in a real rough patch and considering getting divorced.  We decided to work really hard at it, got marriage counseling and are happy, have a new baby and are back in love. <!–more–> He recently  confessed to cheating on me during this time and I thought I could put it past me.  Even though I know where we are at now he never would, I am not sure I can get over this?

Hope To Get Past It, Chicago, IL.

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  1. I agree with Amy – professional help is important. You have your family unit to think of now, so run and get some help,

  2. If you want to get past this, I think you could with some counseling. However, some people say “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” As someone who has cheated myself, I don’t believe this is true, and I will always be faithful to my husband (whom is not the person I cheated on). I do think this is something you should sit down with a professional about (both together and on your own) to figure out how to move on.

  3. I don’t know if I could ever forgive someone, no matter how long ago or how rough the patch. You two were STILL married, after all : \ however, it does say a lot that he would come clean about it, in that he must still regret it and will probably never do it again. I completely understand and feel your pain. Hope the right decision becomes clear to you soon, no matter what the decision is.

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