Category Archives: Reader Questions

What Would You Do If Your Best Friend Was Too Busy To Help Out or Attend Your Wedding?

Reader Question: Should She Confront Her Best Friend For Ditching On The Big Day?

I was just married this past Sunday to the man of my dreams in my parents’ backyard. It was a very tiny event, mostly just family. My best friend and I have known each other since we were 4 years old. I had given her and two other best friends projects to work on for the wedding to help me out. Two weeks before the wedding, she isn’t answering any of my calls/emails/texts. Then 3 days before the wedding she finally texts me and apologizes for being absorbed in her own world and that she can’t make it to the wedding, she doesn’t even mention the project I tasked her. Let me repeat that: “…she texts me…” While I love her to bits, I feel very disappointed that she couldn’t even pick up the phone to call her best friend, but I understand that everyone gets busy in their own lives. Should I confront her and tell her how she made me feel or just let it go?

Hurt in Houston, TX

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My Husband Is Not Giving Me The Luxury Life He Promised.

Wednesday, Reader Question

When we got engaged my husband was starting a career as an investment banker. He was on a path to do very well and lead me to believe he could provide well for me and my lifestyle. I plan to be a stay at home Mom. After 2 years of marriage he realizes that career isn’t “him” and he quit while he bartends to try to find his “life’s passion”. He is thinking artist of some sort. And the odds of making any money are obviously slim to none. I wanted to quit my job this year (as we had planned). I also like the finer things in life and a which he knew when he married me!!!!

Angry, Dallas, TX

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My “Husband” To Be Was a Woman! Do I Still Marry “Him”??

Wednesday – Reader Question

Would you go through with the marriage if you found out your husband to be had a sex change?

Hi. I have been dating the love of my life for 4 years. I had been in a bad marriage before so I know this one is right! I had understood he had been bisexual and had relationships with men in the past, but I did not mind that. He said he was done with that stage of life. Well, he finally asked me to marry him but had to tell me something first. In his early 20s (we are 40 now) he had a sex change. He had been born a woman but identified his whole life as a man. And then finally did something about it as soon as he was old enough and could afford it. I am completely shocked but he is still the same person. Right??? ANY advice at all would be appreciated. I am not talking to my friends about this because I do not want them to judge and I want to respect his privacy.

In Shock!, Location Withheld

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Did My Fiance Hit On My Sister? Who is the Liar?

Reader Question Wednesday: Who Is Telling The Truth?

Hi. I have always had a super competitive relationship with my twin sister. She has been known to be, for lack of a better way of saying it, “the bitch”. She was the Queen Bee in high school and college. We fight and she is more competitive with me (I always have stepped down a bit and let he have the spotlight as that has never been very important to me). We are close as well and love each other. However I am engaged first and her boyfriend won’t even live with her. She sat me down the other day and told me that my fiance hit on her and asked her to have an affair on the side (that to be in a secret affair with a twin would be really sexy). I know we are competitive and she likes to win, but I never in a million years would believe she would take it this far! And I never would believe my fiance would do that. I confronted him and he swears up and down he would never ever have done that and that she is just jealous. I really really have no idea who to believe and the loss of either makes me sick. Any ideas?

Torn, Virginia

I Found Out My Husband Cheated Years Ago. Do I Forgive?

Reader Question Wednesday

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So my husband and I have been married 8 years and about 2 years ago we were in a real rough patch and considering getting divorced. We decided to work really hard at it, got marriage counseling and are happy, have a new baby and are back in love. He recently confessed to cheating on me during this time and I thought I could put it past me. Even though I know where we are at now he never would, I am not sure I can get over this?

Hope To Get Past It, Chicago, IL.

My Husband Wants To Take A Second Wife?!!

Reader Question – Wednesday

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I do live in the states but come from a culture where men take on multiple wives. I am religious and conservative but not THIS religious. It is normal and acceptable in my culture and we never discussed this before marriage. Maybe it was stupid of me. I am not happy about this (and I know it’s not legal but it would be a wedding through our church – for obvious reasons I don’t want to give away our church name etc) but the whole community and my husband is putting pressure on me. I don’t really have friends outside of this community and not sure where to turn for support. We have only been married one year. I was hoping we would start a family this year and instead this is what he wants?? Any suggestions of what I can do?

Desperate , Undisclosed Location

My Husband’s A Sex Addict?!!! Is That Still Cheating?

Wednesday – Reader Question

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I am not really sure what I am going to do. I have been married for about 1 year and my husband sat me down and confessed to me he is an official sex addict. Our sex life has always been normal – in a very good healthy way so this is a bit of a shock. Now what that means is about 2 days a week he goes and has sex with meaningless women – many are complete strangers and sometimes more than one in that day (always protected – THANK GOD!!! my first question of course!) He finally confessed and said he has joined a 12 step program. He said he is willing to do coupled therapy, personal therapy – ANYTHING to fix this in himself. He said it is a disease he is working on and to please not consider it”cheating”. He asked (actually begged) me to stand by him as he gets help and gets “cured”. Is the fact he told me and is determined to get better worth staying with him as he works it out (like alcoholism) or is this just plain cheating and I need to RUN?

Devastated. Columbus, Ohio