A Honeymoonster is the new post-Bridezilla nightmare — a newlywed who relentlessly edits and manages the legacy of their wedding day even after it’s over. A term coined by The Cut, “Honeymoonster” gives us a word to describe those who endlessly rehash their weddings on Facebook, and control the story of their big day by placing constraints and rules around what can be published on their guests’ social networks.
It’s over, girl. Time to move on.
After planning your big day for so long, it can be hard to let go of the impulse to organize, manage, and control every last detail. Plenty of brides (and grooms!) go through post-wedding blues; an existential crisis prompted by the absence of the stress, excitement, and attention that fill the days leading up to a wedding. But once that party is over, your guests are no longer “yours” to entertain. It’s time to let go, move on, and allow people to enjoy their memories of your wedding however they see fit. Even if it means being tagged in that pic where your husband is smushing cake in your hair.
Do you know a Honeymoonster, or are you – gasp! — one of them? Let it go, lady. Find a new project, do some charity work, sell your wedding dress. A Tradesy woman embraces change and knows that letting go of one thing makes room for another. What will be your next great thing?
Tuesday’s Treat -
I can only imagine what she would make her bridesmaids wear! This model strutted down the runway at Berlin Fashion week in a design from German bridal house Kaviar Gauche, looking ready for a swim or a walk down the aisle. Would you wear this? Read full article here.
We found this article “Drive By Weddings, Only in Las Vegas?” and were intrigued. A mobile service to get married in 10 minutes for under 100 dollars? How could you afford not to, right? This mobile service provides the city of Las Vegas a unique way to get married virtually anywhere in the City of Sin.
Who wants to wait in line at the Elvis Chapel when you can get a marriage license along with your breakfast room service? What are your thoughts on this mobile wedding idea an have any of you had a wedding in Las Vegas?
Reader Question Wednesday: Who Is Telling The Truth?
Hi. I have always had a super competitive relationship with my twin sister. She has been known to be, for lack of a better way of saying it, “the bitch”. She was the Queen Bee in high school and college. We fight and she is more competitive with me (I always have stepped down a bit and let he have the spotlight as that has never been very important to me). We are close as well and love each other. However I am engaged first and her boyfriend won’t even live with her. She sat me down the other day and told me that my fiance hit on her and asked her to have an affair on the side (that to be in a secret affair with a twin would be really sexy). I know we are competitive and she likes to win, but I never in a million years would believe she would take it this far! And I never would believe my fiance would do that. I confronted him and he swears up and down he would never ever have done that and that she is just jealous. I really really have no idea who to believe and the loss of either makes me sick. Any ideas?
Reader Question of The Week – He’s Bad In Bed
I was with my husband for 2 years before we got married. We are both pretty romantic and fairly religious so we decided to wait until we were married to have sex. He is a bit more religious than me so he was a virgin. I still take sex very seriously and had only had one sexual partner (a very serious boyfriend I was madly in love with and thought I would marry one day). I was very young so that one didn’t work out. Anyway, once I met my husband I realized he was the man of my dreams. He’s really perfect in every way – well almost. We waited until the first night of our honeymoon for sex and he is terrible! I thought it was his first time so I would give it some time. We are back home – it has been a month. Well, he’s still terrible. I don’t want to talk about it and make him insecure?! Or should I?? Any advice.
Very Frustrated, Kentucky
Tuesday Treat – Bit of Tips from Celebs
One of the most famous couples are finally tying the knot! And there is much to be learned from past weddings of fellow celebs. READ MORE
Reader Question of the Week
Ok. This is really really going to sound insane. I am a member of a women’s group and we do different volunteer projects. About 4 years ago we were assigned to write letters to prisoners. I was shocked when mine wrote me back. And a bit scared. We used a PO box of course. All I knew was he was 27 and in jail for 20 years for murder. As I got to know him through letters i found out a different story. He had come from an abusive family and got involved with drugs and gangs. In a middle of an addicted haze (he hardly remembers the details) he shot someone. The person he shot was a drug dealer and was trying to rip off my fiance. He was arrested (his 2nd offense – first was possession of illegal weapon) and this time he was locked away for life. He had just turned 20. He got clean and sober and realized the error of his ways and the source. He is currently getting a high school and then college degree while in prison. He is getting involved in a program to speak to at risk youth who are going down the same road he is. Through these letters and visit we have fallen in love and he asked me to marry him. He could get out earlier with good behavior. Am I nuts?!
Know It’s a Risk, Detroit, MI
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