Reader Question – Can I Forgive , Trust and Try Again With the Man Who Left Me At the Alter
Hi. Three years ago I met the “love of my life”. We moved in together after 3 months, got engaged within 6 and set a wedding date for a year (to the date) after we met. I was in heaven! Then on the day of our wedding he never showed up. I was panicked and thought something must have happened to him. His family was terrified too as they were all at the church too – waiting. No one heard from him for one week – we even reported him missing. Then after one week he called me (after he let his parents know he was okay and where he was) and said he just couldn’t go through with it, was sorry and after tearful and angry hours of phone conversation I told him to never contact me again. Fast forward two years later I get a call to please meet and hear him out. To summarize (I did agree to meet him – I know, I know!) but he said when we met he was too young (just out of college) to really know how to deal with that kind of love and feelings. Things just went so fast he was scared, lost and didn’t know himself. After getting some experience he knows he is ready to try, starting off a bit slower but moving towards a goal of really marrying this time. All the feelings came back when I saw him again. Am I nuts to give him another chance? I dated a lot since being left and no one came close to him.
Hopeful?, Little Rock, AK
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